The Most Self-Loving Thing You Can Do

Asking for Help Is My Superpower

You know what’s one of my greatest superpowers?

Asking for help.

Yep, that thing most of us were taught not to do. That thing many of us equate with weakness, failure, or even shame.

For me, asking for help has been one of the most courageous, transformative, and self-loving things I’ve ever done.

It’s brought me mentors, healing, clarity, peace—and the deep relief of not doing it all alone.

The Rule That Set Me Free

I didn’t always know how to ask for help.

Like many people, I used to wear my independence like armor. I thought needing help meant I wasn’t smart enough, strong enough, or capable enough.

But then I looked up one day and realized:

So I gave myself a new rule:

If I’m not reaching my goal—whether that’s a career move, a relationship shift, or just feeling good in my day-to-day—and I’ve been trying on my own for a while… it’s time to ask for help.

That little rule has changed everything.

The Hidden Cost of Doing It Alone

It might feel noble to do it all yourself—but the cost is often your joy, peace, time… and honestly, your health.

I call it endurism—the quiet suffering so many of us carry just to prove we’re “strong enough.”

But what if strength isn’t about how much you can carry?

What if it’s about knowing when to put it down?

Why Asking for Help Is a Power Move

Asking for help isn’t weak. It’s wise. It’s self-aware. It’s emotionally intelligent.

It means you’re not going to waste your one precious life stuck in the same cycle.

It means you’re brave enough to be vulnerable, and wise enough to get out of your own way.

It takes real strength to admit when something isn’t working.
It takes bravery to be seen.
It takes humility to let yourself receive.

The Three Levels of Strength

I love how Matthew Hussey breaks this down:

There are three types of people:

1. The one who always needs help

2. The one who never asks for help

3. The one who could do it alone—but chooses support because it’s smarter

That third one? That’s the highest level of strength.

Real strength is knowing you can do it all—and choosing not to.

Because you don’t have to.

When to Know It’s Time

Not sure when to ask for help?

Here’s my personal test:

• Are you happy?

• Are you moving toward what you really want?

If the answer is “no”—and it’s been “no” for a while—it’s time to reach out.

Not because you’ve failed. But because you’re wise enough to want a better way.

What Asking for Help Has Brought Me

Reaching out has radically improved my life. It’s given me:

• Support I trust – mentors, coaches, and people who’ve truly had my back

• Emotional relief – like the moment I realized I didn’t have to carry certain decisions alone

• Clarity – on patterns that were quietly holding me back

• Opportunities – including jobs I never thought were possible

• And more – peace, growth, and the kind of momentum that feels honest and earned

I’ve become a better, happier version of myself—simply because I started asking.

A Note for the Ultra-Independent

If you’ve never seen asking for help modeled…
If you’ve been praised for being the one who “handles it all”…
If you’re scared of looking weak, or worse—being told no…

You’re not alone.

But here’s the quiet truth:

You are allowed to ask for help.
You don’t have to carry it all.
You are worthy of support.

What’s Coming Next

In the next two editions, I’ll share how I’ve made asking for help feel easier—because the right support can make all the difference.

🔄 Reset Moment

📖 Journal Prompt

Where in your life do you feel stuck, tired, or overextended?
What kind of help would lighten the load?

☕ Tiny Joy

Letting someone support you today—whether it’s holding the door, giving advice, or listening to you vent.

✍️ Gentle Affirmation

I am worthy of support.
Asking for help is a strength—not a flaw.

See you next week.
And remember, the strongest thing you can do is let yourself be supported.

With you in the reset,
Bina

P.S. If this resonated, send it to someone else who might need the reminder. And if there’s a question or quiet struggle on your heart, hit reply—I’d love to hear about it.